Chewing the Fat

It’s tough enough dealing with issues of image if you’re a woman. Everywhere you peer there are air-brushed models, unrealistic representations, and judgment. As I’ve grown, I’ve realized the falsehood these things and possess moved on from comparing myself to models and actors.

As a plus-sized woman, however, I’m frequently annoyed with stereotypes and assumptions about us. It’s time us big girls spoke up and were heard.

I recently was very disappointed every time a well-known writers’ conference had the whistle blown to them (justifiably so) for deciding to never bring a staff member back due to this year’s event as a consequence of her size. Weight or size discrimination happens each day and it has happened if you ask me.

There a wide range of different reasons someone could possibly be overweight-which is the reason why the stereotypes are extremely aggravating. But I think it’s reliable advice that generalizing ANY population group is ignorant, wrong, and dangerous. Overweight women (and men) work just like exception.

Below would be the top 10 most offensive stereotypes I’ve experienced and I think you need to call them out.

We’re always eating.

Think on the TV sitcom the place that the token fat body’s always shoving their face and possesses no self-control. This is partially a lazy way of writing for the cheap laugh. But it’s perhaps the most common stereotype and it is annoying. And is it genuinely all that funny? Hasn’t this joke been run across the ground enough already?

We’re all lazy.

I’m busy through the minute my feet hit the bottom in the morning until my head hits the pillow during the night. I know of numerous other overweight people who will be the same way. Just because nobody is hanging out when you exercise like it’s really a hobby doesn’t suggest we’re landing on our butts eating candy throughout the day.

We’re all sick caused by our weight.

I recognize that being overweight can boost the risk of many diseases and issues (heart related illnesses, diabetes, etc.). But it’s not much of a GUARANTEE and you also can’t believe an overweight individual is suffering from these challenges.

I remember when I first became pregnant with my son. I was 37 years of age and overweight. Don’t think I didn’t see the up-and-down eyeball assessments I was getting. I wanted to share with them “Yes! I’m aware I’m fat therefore you think I’m as old as Methuselah for being giving birth, but I’m not stupid and I can take good care of myself and my child!”

I’m not giving information on this by any means, shape, or form. See your doctor to the. But yes, I had a nutritious pregnancy and child. I ate healthy coupled with great prenatal care. But I might have done without the many judgment.

We’re jealous of thin people.

Not sometime ago, someone at your workplace (who happens for being thin) designed a big part of speaking in my experience to go on and so on about how fat she thinks she’s getting. It’s very clear that I’m much heavier than her and she or he was speaking ONLY for me at the time. This isn’t the very first time I’ve had this kind of thing said in my opinion.

When someone that is obviously quite thin says this to someone that is obviously heavier, first thing comes to mind is simply because want you to convey “Oh, I wish I was as thin because you! You aren’t fat whatsoever!” It’s an obvious fish to get a compliment.

Here’s one thing, I don’t cherish who is thinner than me. I’m not comparing myself for them! And if they require a fat person to envy these to feel good about themselves, then I feel sorry on their behalf.

We all have low self-confidence and feel awful about ourselves.

I’m currently almost inside my highest weight (and I’m aging), I feel much better about myself than I ever have.

I understand that what people find attractive will vary dramatically. The only person I truly cherish being attracted in my experience is my spouse, and he isn’t complaining.

I had a wellness coordinator where I work condescendingly identify “you’re worth it” almost like she assumed that merely because I was fat, that I didn’t think I deserved to pursue whatever I felt was best for me.

We have no idea we’re fat.

I’ve had multiple people over my entire life feel the need to point out if you ask me that I’m fat. We don’t dependence on people to create us aware of carrying excess fat. We’re perfectly effective at knowing this on our own, and let’s face it – we all know it.

We are not aware of how to slim down ourselves.

We don’t need to become enlightened with unsolicited advice almost like we aren’t conscious of you need to use-up more calories than consumed in order to lose fat. We aren’t all completely helpless with this capacity and then for many of people, if want to shed weight bad enough, we’ll take action!

Sure, you will discover educated professionals that are very skillful and familiar with helping people reach cause real progress. Nutritionists, fitness coaches, coaches, etc., I’m not in any way saying they are not important or valuable. What I mean is, for no reason need the “stink eye” whenever we happen to have pleasure in seconds or have a very dessert.

I once suffered from a coworker show me her sandwich, that had plenty of vegetables into it, and say “Oh, look at that. Doesn’t that are nice, colorful, and delicious operating those vegetables?” She said this in my experience as if I was children, like she was introducing the thinking behind eating vegetables if you ask me. I am sure of her patronizing agenda as a consequence of other things she’d said if you ask me in the past.

We’re all jolly slobs.

Is it genuinely that funny for a great number of silly, bumbling TV, book, and movie characters being chubby? Do they usually need to become represented as simple-minded, adorable goofballs? We aren’t all stupid and uneducated, yet loveable idiots. Think with the chunky kid within the kid’s adventure movie who always needs to become rescued or even the portly cartoon mouse which is always lagging behind… you will get the picture.

Some folks are actually very educated, successful professionals. We’re goal-oriented and also have a lot to provide an organization with this well-developed careers.

There is often a link to obesity and hygiene.

We also work just like less prone to look or dress professionally to give ourselves well. I had a family member let me know about someone they thought seemed unhygienic (and happened for being overweight) by saying “Well, I know fat smells… ” My eyes about rolled out of my head. I’ve been around way too many stinky skinny people because of this to be a total!

We know this is a standard stereotype or we wouldn’t start to see the slob character within a TV show or movie portrayed as fat. You’ve seen it-stains on his or her shirt, wrinkled clothes, general unkempt appearance. This shouldn’t even have being said but, you cannot assume all overweight body’s unhygienic (for shouting loud… )

That it’s anyone else’s business or that discrimination must be tolerated.

What I want to convey to these creators with the stereotypes is this-if it does not affect you, then don’t judge. It’s not really anyone else’s business what someone weighs or how big a they wear. It’s not OK to transfer your personal low self-esteem toward a fat person so as to make yourself feel much better.

Stereotypes and assumptions are destructive. This is where discrimination arrives. This is how we’re passed over for promotions and opportunity. It’s not OK to discriminate against someone unconditionally, and dimension is not an exception.

It’s around, task is real. It’s time we spoke out.